Here are my points from my talk at Christ Central Lake City and some great resources to create guardrails in your pursuit of purity.Notes: A guardrail is a system designed to keep vehicles from straying into dangerous or off limit areas. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 18 Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body. (NIV) To set guardrails in this area: 1. We have to change the way we think. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 19 Don’t you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you and was given to you by God? You do not belong to yourself, (NLT) Matthew 5:8 (NLT) God blesses those whose hearts are pure, for they will see God. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 20 you were bought at a price. (NIV) To set guardrails in this area we must: 1. Change the way we think. 2. Change how we live. Married: 1. Don’t travel alone with members of the opposite sex. 2. Don’t eat alone with members of the opposite sex. 3. Don’t confide in or counsel members of the opposite sex. 4. Be careful what you watch. 5. When you feel your heart or desire drifting towards a specific person, tell someone. Single: 1. Just apply the married people’s guidelines in your relationships with married people. 2. Don’t put yourself in tempting situations. 3. If your dating scene = sex, it’s time to take a break. Resources: Every Man’s Battle: Winning the War on Sexual Temptation One Victory at a Time
This is a great resource, that even includes a companion book (separate purchase) for wives, on how to overcome the daily sexual struggle us men face. If there is any book I recommend you read first, it’s this one.Every Man’s Battle Guide: Weapons for the War Against Sexual Temptation
A great tool that is full of scripture and short readings to help fight any daily temptations you may face. It was created to be small and thin so you can take it anywhere.Porn-Again Christian
A frank discussion on porn and masturbation by Mark Driscoll. The book is free to read online and it’s the most honest and open discussion on porn I have ever read. A must read for any guy.XXX Church
A website full of tools to help in your recovery or for daily inspiration in our pursuit of purity and holiness. It includes blogs, videos, statistics, tools, and tons more for men and women of all ages. Log on and explore.X3watch or Covenant Eyes
Two great online filters to help us stay pure from any temptation online or on our phones. Integrity online is worth the cost of the software. X3 also has a free online accountability report that can be sent to your accountability partner.X3 Pure
A 30 day workshop to recovery. I highly recommend this 30 day journey for anyone struggling with the guardrail of purity. Years ago I personally went though the class and it was key in helping me put guardrails in my life concerning this issue. It helped me place proper boundaries and form the next steps to my recovery.